Monday, October 14, 2024
A couple of days ago, I woke up with a strange feeling that I was missing out. Not the FOMO (fear of missing out) feeling, but it felt as though I had been left behind or wasn’t where I should be. Even though my ministry endeavors are flourishing, my family is happy, and I’m volunteering everywhere, I still felt a pang of jealousy for people who have been in the same successful job for over 20 years. I needed to sit with the Lord and process: What’s wrong with me? Why do I still feel like I’m in limbo?
I wish I could say this was the first time I felt this way, but—confession: even in my steady ministry roles over the years, I’ve experienced these feelings. I don’t think I’m alone in this. In the fast-paced world of ministry, it’s easy to get caught up in the cycle of always striving toward the next milestone. We often think about where we should be by now instead of focusing on the present. And we all know that this constant striving can lead to burnout and dissatisfaction.
Physical Wiring
Did you know that our brains are wired to seek new experiences and achievements? This is partly due to the reward system in our brain, which releases dopamine when we accomplish something or anticipate a reward. This neurochemical response makes pursuing the next big thing feel exhilarating, but it can also lead to a cycle of endless striving without ever feeling content.
The concept of the “hedonic treadmill” explains why, after achieving a significant goal, we quickly adapt to new circumstances and begin chasing the next challenge. Societal and cultural factors also play a role. In many societies—especially those focused on individual achievement and success—there’s pressure to always move forward. Social media amplifies this, as we’re constantly exposed to the highlights of others' lives, often leading to feelings of inadequacy and a desire to keep up.
But here’s the thing: even with so many forces working against us, we are still called to be present. You have been appointed, planted, and commissioned in your ministry right now.
You Have Been APPOINTED
You may not feel that family or children’s ministry was your first calling or desire, but this is where God has chosen to use you. He has given you a unique circle of influence. Recognizing your worth in this role is crucial. The Apostle Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 12:18, "But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as He wanted them to be." God has appointed YOU to this ministry for a purpose, and your value isn’t diminished by the specifics of your role.
You Have Been PLANTED
God has placed you in exactly the right place. Your job is to recognize your location and flourish in it. Psalm 1:3 says, "That person is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither—whatever they do prospers." Bloom where you are planted. Trust that your current circumstances aren’t a mistake but rather an opportunity for growth and impact.
You Have Been COMMISSIONED
Even if you aren’t fully ordained or formally employed in ministry, your commission comes from the Great Commission. Jesus said in Matthew 28:19-20, "Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age." Whether this is your lifelong vocation or just a chapter before the next thing, you are still called to make disciples. You’re not off the hook—don’t lose steam or let go of your role in discipling others.
What’s Wrong with Looking Ahead?
Whew. It feels vulnerable to admit my feelings of inadequacy and striving, but I know that my current circumstances have created my circle of influence. I also know that my desires and future ambitions push me to improve, build healthy habits, and step out of my comfort zone. These goals are good to hold onto. I just don’t want to get stuck in these feelings or become distracted from my present mission.
Let’s create some action steps together:
1. Spend time in prayer and solitude: Reflect on God’s appointment, planting, and commissioning in your life. Ask for His guidance and peace in your current circumstances.
2. Make a list of your present circumstances and how you can bloom there: Identify opportunities for growth and impact in your current role. Consider how you can use your gifts to make a difference right where you are.
3. Create a vision board or goal sheet for the future: It’s okay to dream and have ambition. Use this exercise to align your goals with God’s will for your life and ministry.
Conclusion
Understanding why we chase the next thing helps us recognize and resist these influences. By focusing on God’s appointment, planting, and commissioning, we can find joy and fulfillment in our current circumstances. Let’s commit to being present, appreciating the journey, and trusting God with the future.
Christen Clark is a speaker and consultant with 17 years of full-time church ministry experience. She holds a master’s degree from Dallas Theological Seminary and is the creator and host of the Collide Kids Podcast, fostering meaningful faith conversations for children. Christen and her family happily reside in Cumming, Georgia. Visit christenclark.org to connect with her today!
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