In today's world, it's no secret that more kids are dealing with tough stuff. Whether it's family drama, school stress, or just the chaos of life, they're facing a lot. But guess what? The church can step up and make a big difference.

So, here's the deal: building trust and empathy is key. When kids know they're seen, heard, and valued, they're more likely to open up. That's where we come in as KidMin leaders. We create spaces where kids feel safe and accepted, no matter what they're going through.

How do we do it? By showing them love and compassion, just like Jesus did. We listen, we encourage, and we care. And you know what? It works.

Listening, encouraging, and caring are foundational to building trust and empathy with kids in our ministries. Here are some practical ways we can put these principles into action:

1. Listen actively. When kids share their thoughts, feelings, or struggles, give them your full attention. Maintain eye contact, nod in understanding, and ask open-ended questions to show you're truly interested. Avoid interrupting or offering immediate solutions; sometimes, kids just need someone to listen.

2. Validate their feelings. Let kids know that their emotions are valid and normal. Use phrases like "I understand how you feel" or "That sounds really tough." Acknowledging their feelings helps them feel seen and understood.

3. Offer words of encouragement. Words have power, so use them wisely. Offer praise and affirmations. Speak Scripture over them and remind them of their worth in God's eyes.

4. Provide practical support. Sometimes, actions speak louder than words. Offer practical help or resources to address their needs. Whether it's tutoring for school struggles, connecting them with a counselor, or simply being a consistent presence in their lives, show them you're there to support them in tangible ways.

5. Model Christ-like love. Ultimately, our goal is to reflect the love of Jesus in everything we do. Show kindness, patience, and compassion in your interactions with kids. Be a role model of Christ's love, and they'll be more likely to open their hearts to Him.

​By practicing active listening, offering encouragement, and providing practical support, we can create a nurturing environment where kids feel valued, supported, and empowered to grow.

Ryan Frank is a pastor, publisher and an entrepreneur. He and his wife Beth are the founders of KidzMatter.