One of my favorite pieces in my home is the kitchen table. It was crafted by a dear friend and retired pastor, Daryl Banet, and I absolutely love it. This round table, made from large, sturdy pieces of wood, can seat up to eight people. It has been the centerpiece of countless meals, conversations, games, interviews, and writing sessions. This table represents more than just a piece of furniture—it symbolizes connection and relationship. Often, I find myself saying, “I saved you a seat!”

Jesus and Relationships
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Jesus was all about relationships. When He began His ministry, He called twelve men to follow Him—not because He needed bodyguards, scholars, or status boosters, but because He wanted companions who would become His closest friends, His brothers, and His family. He loved, taught, and served them, sharing meals and moments. His first recorded miracle was performed at a wedding (John 2:1-11)—a celebration of relationship and community. Throughout His ministry, Jesus often ate with tax collectors, sinners, and families. The story of feeding the five thousand (Matthew 14:13-21) highlights Jesus’ emphasis on shared experiences. After speaking about His Kingdom, He didn’t dismiss the crowd but instead performed a miracle, ensuring they were nourished. This significant event is recounted in all four Gospels, showing its importance.

The Power of Time in Relationships
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True relationships are forged over time and tested through life’s ups and downs. In Luke 10:38-42, we read about Martha inviting
Jesus and His friends into her home. Martha’s intentions were good—she wanted to serve and honor Jesus. However, she became consumed by her tasks, missing out on the chance to be present. Meanwhile, Mary chose to sit at Jesus’ feet, soaking in His words. Frustrated, Martha expected Jesus to side with her and instruct Mary to help. But instead, Jesus told her that while she was worried about many things, Mary had chosen the better part—being present.

This story teaches an essential lesson: serving is good, but being present with loved ones is better. If, during a gathering, I spend the entire time cooking, cleaning, or completing tasks, will my guests feel welcomed? Will they want to come back? Despite Martha’s frustration, Jesus valued His relationship with her, Mary, and their brother Lazarus. When Lazarus fell seriously ill, Mary and Martha sent word to Jesus. Although He didn’t rush to them immediately, He eventually went, risking His safety (John 11). This deep bond led to one of His most famous miracles: raising Lazarus from the dead.

Why Connection Matters
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In today’s world, staying connected is easier than ever, but genuine relationships go deeper than knowing someone’s name. True connections mean more meaningful interactions. While Bible studies can be enriching, they don’t always create deeper relationships. Many families face significant challenges today, and they need the guidance found in God’s Word, alongside the support of people who have walked similar paths. Such connections can be the difference between giving up or living as God intended.

We want our friends and family to truly understand the depth of God’s love—a love so boundless that nothing can stop Him from pursuing us. When this truth takes hold, it transforms our identities. We stop seeing ourselves solely as parents or children;
we see ourselves as sons and daughters of the King. This new identity fuels a desire to express love and speak words of life to others.

Creating Space for Connection
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Welcoming others into your home is key to building relationships, but it’s essential to let the “Martha” in us take a back seat when guests arrive. Preparation is important, but don’t let it overshadow the joy of being present. Be like Mary—engaged and focused on meaningful interactions. Perfection isn’t required. Instead, embrace genuine conversation and laughter. Did you know it’s nearly impossible to offer advice or correction to someone you don’t have a relationship with, even if it’s well-intentioned? Establishing a foundation of shared experiences, like a simple cup of coffee or tea, makes a significant difference.
Intentional relationships provide support, wisdom, and guidance. So before your home fills with family and friends, pause and take a deep breath. Commit to being fully present and embodying the love of Jesus. Who knows? With so many connections, you might just need to get a bigger table!

The Seat at the Table
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Ultimately, the seat at your table represents more than just a place to sit—it’s an invitation for someone to come as they are, feeling accepted and loved without conditions. It’s an opportunity to share in laughter, conversation, meals, and celebration. So, who are you saving a seat for?

Tish Striegel has served in Children's Ministry for over 25 years and is currently the Children's Pastor at Hill City Church in Southern Indiana, a suburb of Louisville, KY. She graduated from the inaugural KidMin Academy class in 2016. Tish is the author of four books: My Journey to Wholeness, Truth About Baby, The Truth About Me, and The Truth About Me: Preteen Edition. She is passionate about children’s and family ministry and loves good coffee, writing, and helping others realize their potential. She and her husband, Tim, have been married for 30 years, raised three children, and are currently enjoying being grandparents to eight grandchildren.

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